Living Together: After the Breakup

After the breakup, who gets the lake house?

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/07/23/garden/23divorce.html?_r=1

How Do I Know When It Is Time to Leave a Relationship?

When is it time to leave a relationship? When you don't love anymore....

Since love is the entire issue that is to be explored, lived out, and ultimately to be honored in your planet, then love must be the center of the focus. there is no rule that says if a heart has moved, if a consciousnes has grown, the human being must remain faithful to something that no longer holds them in the name of society's definition of the meaning of love.

(Excerpt from Emmanual's Book II: The Choice for Love)

Internet Dating Tips, by a Stay-At-Home Dad

As someone who's tried it myself, these tips rang true for me!http://www.huntingtonnews.net/columns/090629-sallan-columnsdadspointofview.html

What God has joined together, recession makes hard to split asunder

Wall Street Journal article on the effects of the recession on divorce. http://online.wsj.com/article_email/SB124743668592229179-lMyQjAxMDI5NDE3MzQxMzM2Wj.html

Stop Cell Phone Harassment Before It Starts!

A friendly reminder: Cell Phone Numbers Go Public this month. All cell phone numbers are being released to telemarketing companies and you will start to receive sales calls. Worse yet, YOU WILL BE CHARGED FOR THESE CALLS!

To prevent this, call the following number from your cell phone: 888-382-1222. It is the National DO NOT CALL list. It will only take a minute of your time. It blocks your number for five (5) years.You must call from the cell phone number you want to have blocked. You cannot call from a different phone number.

It takes only 20 seconds, and can save you a lot of needless aggravation.

And for Those Who Don't Like Working Out...

Be a couch potato in style at one of these 12 awesome and creative home theaters. http://www.toxel.com/tech/2009/07/06/12-unusual-and-creative-home-theaters/ (In all fairness, whoever built these theaters are probably super achievers that work out all the time.) Still, a nice place to veg out.

A Shift in Perception

Today I woke up feeling stressed. I had promised my good friend, Lalitha, that I would spend the day with her. (Lalitha is a guru friend of mine from India. She is here visiting her family for 2 months, and will soon be going back.) Yet, there was a whole host of things I needed to get done that had fallen by the wayside last week, while I hastened to finish up and timely file an appellate brief.

The day after tomorrow my real estate investing mentor will be here, and I had yet to complete the extensive questionnaire that was supposed to be sent two days ago. As soon as I opened my eyes, thoughts of worry, guilt, and stress greeted me.

I decided not to greet them back, however. Lately, I've been doing a meditation called Love's Pathway that focuses on "being love." Part of that is surrendering whatever negative feelings or fears you have, to love.

Well, I did that this morning, but I didn't feel any better. Still the stress was bearing down on me and telling me I just didn't have time to spend with Lalitha today. So I went to the second level. I asked myself: "How can I bring love to this interaction?

I started thinking about what Lalitha would really enjoy doing today, and came up with a great idea: Mani and pedi! I'd take her to lunch and then treat her to a pedicure. I imagined her soaking her feet in the warm, bubbly water, feeling the massage chair knead her sore back, and smiled with pleasure.

So that's what we did. I took her to lunch and told her about my plans. She was pleased, and said that she also needed a haircut. We made a day of it. Lunch, haircut, pedicure (she loved the foot massage, which she said she gets "at home" (India) every day, and had been missing here!), and a manicure. Lalitha even got red polish on her fingernails, something I'd never seen her do before.

After that, a relaxing nap with the "om" box. Lalitha went home happy, and I was, too. Lately I haven't had time to go to the nail place myself, so I got that done while giving pleasure to my friend.

And still had time to get my questionnaire done, with the help of my stepdaughter.

A Course in Miracles says that a miracle is simply a shift in perception. I saw that happen today, and a day that started with stress, ended with joy.